I want to start with saying how everybody is different, and EVERY BODY is different, and this is my story. This blog post is also not just for moms, but all women.. I just know now how much harder it is to get back into shape after having a baby, so I wanted to touch more on how things have changed with my body and workouts after having my boy.
As I’ve said in one of my past blog posts (My Fit Pregnancy), I did workout during my whole pregnancy. Nothing too intense, mainly some light weights, speed walking, biking and stretching. I had a few people with the nerve to tell me when I was pregnant “your body will never get back to normal after having a baby” or “you’re never going to look the same again once you have your baby”. My first thought was “I hope I don’t look the same as before I had my baby, I want to look even better than before”. So it became my goal for MYSELF, to look and feel better than ever after having Beckam. Having a baby means changing your lifestyle yes, but it does not mean that I have to give up my life. My life mainly revolves around Beckam (which I love because I’m completely obsessed with him), but I’ve never felt more like myself than I do now. Having a baby doesn’t mean giving up your whole life, living completely for someone else or losing who you are. Having a baby is the greatest gift, and loving yourself, being happy and staying who you are is one of the best things you can do for your child. The more that I’m myself, the happier I am.. the happier I am, the happier my family is.
Something that really bothers me is when I hear people say things like “you bounced back right away after having Beckam” or “your lucky your body went right back to normal”, ummm no. That is so far from the truth. Yes I have good genes, my parents and their parents have always been in good shape.. but it doesn’t come as easy for us as you think. We too have to work at it. I am lucky enough to have come from a healthy lifestyle, my parents never gave us treats in our lunch kits (no fruit roll ups, mini pizzas or dunkaroos). Although it used to not feel fair that I was the only one in my class without treats, I understand now why my parents didn’t feed us that stuff daily and I am so thankful for that. And now after having a baby, I realize how much harder it is to get back in shape. So when I hear people assume it happened naturally for me.. no it didn’t, I have worked my ass off and continue to do so to get the results I want.
Being healthy is not a specific “health kick” or “diet”. Being healthy for me has become a lifestyle. There are things I have had to “sacrifice” to get to where I am. One of those things is alcohol, which turns out to not be a sacrifice at all. In the past two years, I can count on one hand how many drinks I have had. It was a personal decision that I made for myself, and I couldn’t be happier. Another big one is cutting out sugar. I LOVE desserts and anything sweet, but sugar really is so bad for you. I’ve cut down a lot on my intake of desserts, and when I do have something sweet, I make sure my portion size is smaller. I try to make sure that I am always eating lots of fruits & veggies, healthy fats, proteins and carbs.
The first few pounds shed quickly after Beckam was born, with the help of breastfeeding. I got back into the routine of mainly healthy eating, and hardcore workouts which consisted of sprinting, running and some “insanity”. What I learnt was that you don’t have to go overboard to the point where you are practically killing yourself trying to get the body that you want. Eventually I did plateau. It was frustrating because I truly believed that I was doing everything possible to get back to myself again. After about a month of not seeing any change, I decided to switch things up. I started more into doing some free weights and lighter cardio (elliptical, speed walking and biking). This is also the time that I decided to start having smaller meals, and a lot more of them throughout the day. Portion control has played a huge part in me getting back into shape! I ended up getting rid of my gym membership and purchasing the things that I would need to workout at home. Being a mom, it really is just so much easier for me to workout at home. I get motivated really easily (it wasn’t like this at the beginning!), so its easy for me to want to keep on pushing, no matter what distractions there are at home.
It used to take everything in me to put my gym clothes on, and get my butt into gear. But once I started seeing results, the more addicting it became and the easier it was for me to get motivated. Sometimes it can take time to see changes. For me it took a total of 7 months to get into better shape than I was in before. 7 months of waking up early to workout, doing cardio and weights 5-7 times a week no matter how much sleep I had the night before with my new baby constantly waking up, and saying no to “treat nights” until I felt I deserved them. 7 months of pushing myself harder than I ever had, setting new goals and seeing them through, and making MY FITNESS a priority.
My husband and I love to travel (and luckily so does our baby!). I know traveling can be busy, and there is always so much fun stuff to do and see, but taking 45 minutes to an hour each day (or at least a few days of your vacation) to workout and focus on your fitness goals can make a huge difference. I always feel way better for the rest of my vacation if I know I made an effort to keep up with my goals. Like I said, this for me is a lifestyle. I don’t put it on hold. It is a priority.
This is a never ending journey, but it really does get better and better the harder you work. Start making goals, even if they are “small” goals, sometimes those are the ones that make the biggest difference. It’s been said that it takes 21 days to make and break habits. Set your goal, and don’t look back. I truly believe that you can accomplish anything that you set your mind to, and don’t forget to be easy on yourself at the same time. If you work hard, you will get there!
Sports Bra: Nike | Leggings: Live Fit Apparel | Runners: Nike